Often, when we face intense suffering, we mistakenly try either to fix ourselves or to fix God. Sometimes, we try to pretend that things aren’t really bothering us. We wait until we can put on a brave face and only then, when we can say “appropriate things” do we turn to God in prayer. Other times, when pretending is not an option, we try to explain why God would do these things (“it’s actually a good thing that this happened”), or, when that’s impossible (because some suffering simply has no human explanation), we turn away from God. Neither of these reactions actually draws us any closer to God.